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What I want to know is where have manners gone?
I have had several men approach ME on a popular dating service. After several emails back and forth they ask if I would like to meet for a glass of wine. If we have gotten through multiple emails and I haven't banished him then sure- I would love to meet for a glass of wine, what do I have to lose? Might not be any connection at all, might end up with a new friend, or maybe, just maybe, someone I would like to date. I'm not hell bent on finding prince charming- if it happens it happens. I do like meeting new people and really do like to go out and have fun.
The problem is that these guys are guilty of false advertising. They SAY they want to go out, they SAY they are looking for someone to go have fun with, they SAY blah blah blah. When it comes down to it they are too busy to go out, sometimes even just once a week. They aren't really looking for someone to go have fun with, they can't seem to find the time to go out or they already have people they are too busy having fun with add someone new to their life. The best are the guys who are looking for someone to date even though they are still wrapped up with a mostly (but not quite) ex girlfriend. I won't even go into the myriad of emotional dysfunction issues I have come across.
The latest is a guy who pursued me and after several emails asked if I would like to meet for a glass of wine. Sure- that would be great.
Heres how it went;
-Monday: Meet for wine next week? Sure
-Wed: I emailed about zoo wine tasting and party I was going to that night, sorry he was missing it- response? We're going to the Cards game- meet us after at (bar downtown)? I'll call you after the game- never called. Free pass, everyone gets one.
-Monday: He emails to say he was busy all weekend (no mention of not calling Wed.) but would I like to get together wed for dinner? Sure. He never called. Strike 1
-Thurs.: emailed apology- Hey cutie, I was out pricing kitchen cabinets and didn't get home til late, could we raincheck for the weekend? Sure (what is this cutie crap- I don't even know you and you are becoming an unreliable jackass- calling me cutie won't fix it). Strike 2
-It is Friday night and I am going out with a girlfriend for drinks. I haven't heard from the guy about the raincheck this weekend. Strike 3 and YOU"RE OUT!
Where is the accountability? Boys (and you are boys, MEN don't behave this way). Why are you on a dating site?
Here are some hints boys:
-If you don't want to go out and have fun, want a relationship or are incapable for whatever reason GET OFF THE DATING SITE!
-If you don't intend to meet me don't ask me out.
-If we communicate and you change your mind about wanting to meet then tell me, don't keep asking me out and blowing me off.
-Women like some form of plan- if you want to take me out this weekend at least pick a night so I can plan the rest of my weekend. No- we do not want to control you, we have lives and expecting us to put them on hold for you is unreasonable at the early stages of dating.
And men wonder why women call them a$$holes?
