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Yes, That Photo Is Too Sexy for Any Yearbook

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There is this big brouhaha going on about a Colorado high school student's yearbook photo. Sydney Spies, an 18-year-old Durango High School senior, and her mother are making the TV talk show circuit, claiming the teen's freedom of expression is being squelched.

Spies told 9News, "I'm a dancer, I'm trying to be a model, I really enjoy photography and I think that this is a good thing to represent me and I think they are taking away my freedom of expression."

As a former high school yearbook editor, I think this is a crock of crap.

I am all for freedom of the press, personal expression, yadda yadda yadda, but this is high school. There are things called dress codes and editorial discretion. These rules are in place to protect the children. Spies claims the student yearbook editors first voted to allow it, then changed their minds. Good for them. Perhaps they had time to think about their decision, and cooler heads prevailed.

This is a PUBLIC high school. The dress code requires students "fully cover the chest, back, abdomen, and ides." Clearly this get-up violates the code. Period. That's not even getting into the come hither, practicing for Playboy pose or the photo's inappropriateness.

Stick it in your modeling portfolio, Honey, but not in the public school yearbook.

I'm not sure if I'm more irritated with the teen or her mother, Miki Spies. Yes, it is a mother's job to support her child, to stand by her, and encourage her to stand up for what she believes in. But this is more like shopping her out for a modeling contract or a reality show. It's cheap. It's tawdry. This girl is totally getting pimped out by her mother.

What do you think of the photo? Yea or nay?

 

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LIChevyMetsGrrl 5 pts

The only reason she is making a big deal out of this is simply: she is an ASPIRING model. She has to know in her little tramplet heart that she will never get this pic into her yearbook. However, she knows Hefner has a thing for blondes and well, the younger the better. She wants attention.

amlindsey 7 pts

The picture is going to be in the school with the dress code. That's so obvious, the only reason you'd contact the media is to get your daughter some attention. By showing off a scary-adult picture that shows more than a bikini, did, judging by those tan lines. Not cool, family. Not cool.

ltorres78 12 pts

It's also her mother's job to teach her what's appropriate and what's not. Sometimes that can be a relative opinion, but this isn't even close to any line.

hilljo 7 pts

Nay. I agree with your points completely. Dress code!

Kimberly S. 10 pts

It is an injustice for this mother to be supportive of this photo appearing in a high school publication. She is exploiting her daughter's sexuality, which gives the her the message that her worth, her self-esteem, should be based on her ability to be, not just "look", sexual. Our world, and especially the world of young people, is full of examples of oversexualization of women. Just like it's difficult to get our kids to eat well because of the marketing bombardment of bad food, it's difficult to get our kids to understand, especially in the teen years, that a human being's worth goes miles beyond our ability to be sexy.

@joyceakiko 5 pts

Haha I saw heard about this yesterday, and the minute I saw your post title I knew exactly what it was about. That picture is terrible! Way too sexual for a yearbook picture.

LizasEyeview 7 pts

This photo, for a high school year book? NO! But now she and her mom are so happy that media is giving them the attention they want.

MissAmandaJane 7 pts

...sweetheart, dressing like that in the high school stairwell doesn't say "model". It says something else entirely.

Lisa Stone 28 pts moderator

Oh. My. Sweet. Heaven. I just showed this photo to my 15-year-old, who said, "I don't know....what do you think?" I looked up and he had pulled his t-shirt into a halter top, tweaked his shorts, popped a hip and was winking at me over his shoulder. Once I stop laughing I'm going to have to find a tower to lock him in. To even see one's baby in this attitude? YEOW. Nunca.

DianasaurDishes 11 pts

Lisa Stone That had me giggling for five whole minutes Lisa!

mamawolfe 10 pts

I'm a current yearbook advisor. I wouldn't print that photo-I'd crop it. The yearbook isn't a place for controversy-it's a place for memories and references.

Sally G 15 pts

mamawolfe That sounds like a great idea—she gets to use the shot, but the inappropriate dress is not included. Way to go!

mwflannery 7 pts

Forget that the pose is too sexy, consider, for the sake of an award winning yearbook, that it's simply a really bad picture! The contorted pose of her body against the slanted staircase, and the angle of the camera (eek!), not to mention the girl looks stiff and uncomfortable, and the expression on her face is something between fear and "is it over yet?" It's simply a badly done photograph!

Leighbra 14 pts

She did stick it in her portfolio. It's been on every major online news source all week.Probably a better way to prepare for a job as a model than college would be.

MauiShopGirl 55 pts

Can you say 15 minutes? This has nothing to do with freedom of expression and has everything to do with the opportunity to get 15 minutes of fame.

njgeiger 9 pts

MauiShopGirl

Exactly what I was going to say!

mommyrant 16 pts

This is so ridiculously out of line it doesn't merit discussion on BlogHer.

JChandler 12 pts

A yearbook is not the place to advertise yourself for modeling. This was a calculated attempt to gain publicity and it worked. If what she wanted to promote was her beauty and sexuality, which anyone can see was part of her agenda, then there are plenty of other venues for that.

With the "me" generation, desperate to be noticed, filled with snapshots of arched backed, chest out poses and limited use for clothing, (or dress codes) this comes as no surprise.

This isn't a case of suppressing HER rights, it is a case of assessing whether there are policies in place with the school, appropriate use of the yearbook or rules for conduct. Which, like in life and business, she will quite possibly have to become familiar with and adhere too. This is also about the role of a parent - not friend - not agent but PARENT.

I hate to break it to people but there is a need to know how to dress for certain places, how to gauge your speech, understand some basic manners and do some critical thinking about just what you are attempting to accomplish in any given situation. There is a backlash, I know, against these things but we don't live in a bubble. As such, I believe there are more things wrong with her picture than right! I'm offended by the notion that she and her mother believed the High School yearbook was THEIR place to sell (or "represent") her.

scallywag 6 pts

Diminish quality? Award winning and I bet god fearing too! Well as far as I can tell I can’t see Sydney’s crotch (not even with a microscope) even if that may be part of the suggestion. Then again last time I walked down the street all the billboards and magazine covers depicted nothing but images of half naked women being urged to give their boyfriends fulfilling orgasms. Indeed. Nothing like a patriarchal establishment setting the standard and then being offended when a bit of skin is shown at a school yearbook of all places, manners and proprietary aside. http://scallywagandvagabond.com/2012/01/students-y...

JennaHatfield 126 pts

Our yearbook photos had to be a head and shoulders headshot. Nothing else. No props. No hats. No other people. Or animals. I thought it was stupid back then, but things like this make me understand it was so there were less issues with photo submissions.

Conversation from Twitter

Honnie_Badger
Honnie_Badger

MyBeautyBunny blogher This was her other choice: http://t.co/4PPWwkPi

Peady
Peady

helpwevegotkids Well there goes 5 minutes of my life I'll never get back. #oy blogher

HelpWeveGotKids
HelpWeveGotKids

peady I know...sorry!

Peady
Peady

helpwevegotkids That's OK! Now I just have to go wash out the "dumb" with something really, really gripping and intelligent! ;) #balance

HelpWeveGotKids
HelpWeveGotKids

sarahjcarter blogher I feel like girls aren't girls anymore. That picture is crazy

sarahjcarter
sarahjcarter

helpwevegotkids blogher I'd be mortified if I was her mother.

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Glamorous Moms
Glamorous Moms

If this is the photo she actually submitted, our answer is NO. She should save these pics for her modeling portfolio, a nice headshot will do for the yearbook.

Lisa Stachura Wirth
Lisa Stachura Wirth

I'd love to see them deny the photo for the $300 ad she wants to place just to get that photo in the book. The yearbook committee has every right to uphold their standards and ability to acquire national recognition for their editing efforts - EDIT this girl OUT

Shaza's Scrapbook
Shaza's Scrapbook

Every school has a dress code and that dress code is enforced for everything school related - including yearbooks.
She definitely got what she wanted AND more - sad to see girls doing this to themselves!

Btw, I can't believe that the school refused to use her picture but then accepted it as a "paid ad" - doesn't that give mixed messages? Shame on everyone involved - girl, her mother and the school (for selling out over $300 if the reports are true)

Christina Lane
Christina Lane

No - but I guess their ploy was successful we are all talking about it

Dr. Jacqueline Lang
Dr. Jacqueline Lang

Yes to much for the yearbook. I agree with most her 15 min. of fame.

Larry Hansen
Larry Hansen

The mother needs to be flogged! Twoce

Heather Hogan
Heather Hogan

Well, she is being freely expressed all over the internet... why does she care what's in the yearbook? The school and yearbook company both would be within their rights to deny printing this picture.

Polish Mama on the Prairie
Polish Mama on the Prairie

Tanya, thanks for the book rec.

Tanya Arce Fox
Tanya Arce Fox

This is very sad: that a young girl would consent to this and that her mother is backing her up. You should all check out Joan Jacobs Brumberg's excellent book: The Body Project: An Intimate History of American Girls. Fascinating photos of young girls in history (past 100) years. There is definitely a downward trend in modesty. Another book I just heard about that I want to read is Fashioned by Faith by former model Rachel Lee Carter.

Erica Jensen Hanlon
Erica Jensen Hanlon

People keep talking about her being 18 and therefore able to consent to having this kind of picture of herself taken & published. Part of the problem is you have a large number of children under the age of 18 in the school and they are the target audience for a yearbook. Exposing them to this kind of picture? You get a big, fat "nay" from me.

Polish Mama on the Prairie
Polish Mama on the Prairie

If she was on a tv show about this, she got paid. So, her plan worked. I'm assuming her game plan is the same as that "teen bride". Way to aim high in life. But what do you expect when parents follow people like the Kardashians. Guess what, that's the example of a successful woman that you are exposing your children to and teaching your daughters to follow. Good job.
In the meantime, I know that if I were to dress like that to go out as a full grown woman, my parents would knock my head off my shoulders. Based on my and my husband's reactions, our daughters will receive the same reaction from us if they dared to do something like this. 17, 18, 31 years old. No.
Also, this is not about freedom of speech. The freedom of speech act does not mean that anyone can put in anything they want into a media source, without the approval of said media source. Be that a school yearbook, a newspaper, or BlogHer's site. You have to have the approval of the media source. Or you can make your own media source and publish whatever you would like. Her US Citizen rights no not make her able to put whatever picture (or literature, for that matter) she wants to into the school yearbook. If we are going to discuss Constitutional rights, that which is her right is hers but that which is not, just is not. No pic.

Janice Luvs Coupons Shores
Janice Luvs Coupons Shores

I think the schools dress code should be followed. She would not be allowed to wear that outfit to school. There is a time and place for everything and the schools yearbook is not the place.

Sorrelle Ellis
Sorrelle Ellis

She looks confused. Its a bad pic. She reminds me of that courtney girl who married the old guy. Thinking shes sexy but to young to know that sexy comes from within.

Suzanne Stiles Simpson
Suzanne Stiles Simpson

Yeah, Suzy, she'll definitely get more miles out of this not being published than from some modeling agent browsing through some random yearbook. This goes in my big "who gives rat's ass?" category.

Lee McRoberts
Lee McRoberts

hell, why not go ahead and publish it and let her live with the results...that would undoubtedly make a lasting impression on her as well, maybe not immediately but she'll always be known as the girl with the trashy senior picture

Suzy Aaron Riccon
Suzy Aaron Riccon

The worst part of this is how the media has picked up on it. This was on the Today show this morning, which is where I first heard of it. Really? This is newsworthy? Kudos to her peers that said "no" - they are ten times more mature than this girl AND her mother.

Tonya Roope Iles
Tonya Roope Iles

I'm assuming that her attire in the photo would not have met the dresscode guidelines for attending school, so why would it be ok for the school yearbook? This girl and her mother are clearly attention seeking losers. And now the media is rewarding them. Sad.

Lisa Kauffman-Bluemel
Lisa Kauffman-Bluemel

They got what they wanted. Right?!?! To get her name and photos out there for everyone in society to see so that she can get picked up by some modeling agency or be the next dancer on Dancing with the Stars. This mom obviously wants the same thing for her daughter and pushing her like all the crazy moms on Toddler and Tiaras. It's not at all about the yearbook. And no, it's not appropriate for a senior photo. I'm sure they knew that...there's photo requirements that have to be followed.

Gail Buesnel
Gail Buesnel

Besides the fact that is inappropriate for a year book, for her sake, to save future embarrassment she needs to select another picture. I am sure a girl as pretty as she and as fond of the camera as she, has one.

Pamela Gold
Pamela Gold

What I can't believe is that her mother is backing her up on wanting this to be her senior yearbook photo. She looks like a hoochie.

Jessica Doll
Jessica Doll

Uhh no. Put some clothes on little girl.

Alicia Gantz
Alicia Gantz

I can't believe her mom would even let her get that pic taken, i would never want to encouage my daughter to promote herself as a sexual object.

Cathi Walsh
Cathi Walsh

some people have more boobs than they have good sense

Cristina Gonzalez
Cristina Gonzalez

Not appropriate.