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Yes, We're a 99er Family Too

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Last night, we sat around our family room wrapped in our blankets and layered up socks to watch 60 minutes.  It's a routine we have on Sunday nights.  Only, it's a little colder here because we have the heat turned way down to save on the heating bill.  In one week, we will become a 99er - 99 weeks of unemployment benefits come to an end, having exhausted our savings, retirement, and beginning to sell off things to survive.  And so it goes ... this D E P R E S S I O N we are in.  I am not going to be politically correct here, as this is NOT a recession.  Far from it.  And you know how I know?  Well, let's see ... I'm depressed.  My hubby is depressed.  Our children are depressed.  About 30+ % of our neighbors have lost their jobs and they, too, are depressed.  Businesses are failing and the economy is depressed.  Crime is on the rise and that's because there are a lot of depressed people with guns and knives out there in desperate situations.  Desperate.  Is that what we've become as a nation?  Desperate?

You grow up.  You get your education.  You go to college.  You get a higher education.  You run up an extraordinary debt in student loans.  You trust the corporations out there in your field to hire you.  You work, you advance, you learn, you get a world of experience, you pay off your student loans, you get promoted, you get a bonus or two or more, you network, and then - then - you get the pink slip.  Out the door with a box filled with personal pictures and belongings, and no, you don't even steal the stapler. What next?

UNEMPLOYMENT

Suddenly your pushed along in this line of desperate people, all clamoring for the same job - then over time it's "any" job.  It's hell.  And forgive me for being so blunt, but anyone who says that Obama put us here is about 5 cards short of a full deck.  This hell began with the Bush Administration.  I don't make it a habit to voice my political agenda on this blog of mine.  I am open-minded and I listen - to both sides.  I vote my conscience, not my party.  I've always voted for the candidate whom I believe to hold the same values and agendas that I believe are important.  There are no "perfect" people out there and there certainly is nobody, Republican or Democrat, who can get us out of this crisis in a year or two.  Who are we kidding?!!!

We're all human here, and I believe that voting straight party lines is like voting blind-folded.  Regardless, we're deep in the sludge of this mess and we need to get the hell out of it - and fast.  Take a look at history, and you will see that it is this similar situation in Germany that brought Hitler into power.  He promised a more perfect Germany, and a happier people.  Well, you can see where that led.  Let's not go there again, people.  Let History have taught us something about the state of our "minds" and the state of our "economy." We need to stop playing the blame card and get down to business - literally.

Yes, I am losing sleep.  Yes, I have even applied for a job at Target, and Home Depot, and Barnes & Noble.  I did hear back from Target.  They sent me this nice short email telling me that I did not qualify for a job at this time.  Huh?  You're kidding right?  Am I not disabled enough for them?  The problem here is that "everyone" - and I mean literally "everyone" is applying for a job at Target, Home Depot, and the local grocer.  Finding a minimum wage job is nearly as impossible as finding the "right" job!

I've got to hand it to my Big Bear.  He has really held things together for this 2 years.  He has utilized every resource possible to keep us above water.  I don't know how he does it, but he's done his best to keep a positive outlook, even though I know this is killing him inside.  He has carried us all and not voiced one complaint.  He truly is a remarkable man, stronger than any I've ever known.

So, last night as we curled up in

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CrazedMama 5 pts

This economy is horrible and you know what really makes me mad?? All of these people I see whining and complaining about how bad their job is. They look like a complete jackass to the other 245908745 people who don't have a job and can't find one, not even at McDonalds! Some people don't realize how lucky they are.

theoutcast 5 pts

What really makes me mad is that there is so much money out there. There are trillions of dollars sitting the banks. This is what happens when people are not taxed or required to pay a living wage to people. I know people with millions just waiting... Waiting for interest rates to go up so they make easy money.

If they would force an increase worker salaries by 10% for two years, America could come back. This fact makes me sick to my stomach while Americans like you suffer the consequences.

It's madness! Hopefully you can keep sewing and innovating. Thanks for sharing your situation.

There are job opportunities here in L.A. I know that it would be hard to live apart or to relocate may not be an easy option. Thought I would mention it.

Heather blogs about Motherhood & Other Offensive Situations at http://www.ultimateoutcasts.com.

msusanvaughn 5 pts

You got that right!! It is true what these larger corporations are doing, and it is sad. I hope you will take a look at my post to Avaya - the company that laid off my Big Bear in September 2008. The link is:

http://www.raisin-toast.com/myopus/2008/10/avaya--... ( http://www.raisin-toast.com/myopus/2008/10/avaya--... )

Thank you for your comment coolcatz!

- Susan

coolcatz 5 pts

I'm a Canadian and it pains me greatly to see what is going on in the US. I have many American friends and I enjoy visiting. I have a job in a small family business and we are thankful that our employer hung on to all employees, we didn't get any raises or big bonuses, but we stayed employed and things are just now picking back up a bit.

But I am sorry this last go round with the recession in the US just too hard on people. What I saw from afar was round after round of layoffs from big companies that could afford to keep those employees, albeit maybe at a lower pay rate or no bonuses. But no, they were all cut off and that created a massive wave of unemployment and people who could not afford discretionary goods and services anymore and that in turn put those smaller companies out of business with no one buying. To the large American corporations we must say they have a corporate social responsibility to keep people employed, even in the hard times, sacrifice the bottom line and the report to the investors and share holders. What happened was reprehensible, and to think some of those companies even got TAX dollars from the government and STILL laid off workers. Shameful!

Truly I am amazed that Americans have not risen up in anger against these irresponsible companies and taken them over and run them the way your country needs them to be run.

Take care everyone, I am hoping brighter times are ahead for us all!

emilysteers 5 pts

thank you :-) i know LOGICALLY it was for the best, but it's so emotional to think about. i appreciate the support!

 -emily

www.happyhomeblog.com ( http://www.happyhomeblog.com )

msusanvaughn 5 pts

Thank you Kristen for your compassion and your comment on my story. It's been a tough road, but I do still see the blessings that lie before me by trying to live in the moment rather than in the future. When I let my brain worry about the future, it really rails me down, but when I live in the moment, I begin to feel the blanket that covers my feet and the comfort of the pillow behind my back. I enjoy more the pillow beneath my head at night or when I nap. I savor every moment that I can sit here on the sofa with my feet up and my laptop on my lap answering comments from new-found friends. I appreciate the moments spent enjoying what I love - painting, and sewing, and quilting, and talking to my children and grandchildren. That is what keeps me "somewhat" - ha ha - sane through all of this mess. My Big Bear sure has been the strength, though, that has carried our family of 5 through this nasty economic adventure. I give him all the credit for holding us all together! - Susan

msusanvaughn 5 pts

I know exactly what you mean, Emily!! It is such a shame. People - and educated people at that - have become so narrow-minded to the humanity in us all. They would rather see our differences than all the things that truly make us homogeneous. This is the time when we need to pull together, not tear apart. The political arena has become a Gladiator arena to draw blood. Politicians and people must stop finding blame with one another and somehow, with communication and humility, listen - listen to each other - and find common ground. If we all keep fighting the system and the natural course of events and time it will take to heal, we will never heal. It's like picking at a wound till it bleeds over and over again. It will leave a scar. I hope that when you are ready to retire, and I know that seems like an eternity to you right now, that there is still retirement left for you. As much as you must hate having to pay that student loan debt, too, though, it's better than having no student loan debt and no education. You did the right thing, Emily. Keep your head up and take care of your credit like a baby. You'll be fine. - Susan

ElmCityParent 5 pts

I think it's such an important reminder for all of us about just how fortunate many of us are. I also think you make a very important point. To solve our current problems we all need to unite, not become more divided by voting party lines. We need to back the individuals that can do the best job. I wish the best for you and your family and I hope things turn around for you very soon.

Kristen M.

Co-Founder, ElmCityParentSource.com

emilysteers 5 pts

i'm fairly new to the job market (4 years of working post college) and i sort of know how you feel. 30K in student loan debt and i'm "under" employed-- i get paid just enough to cover rent and student loan payments. everything else (food, car insurance, gas, necessary items like work clothes) goes on a credit card. there is ABSOLUTELY no way i will ever have a savings account, if the economy doesn't pick up in the next few years.

your statement "He promised a more perfect Germany, and a happier people. Well, you can see where that led. Let's not go there again, people," really speaks to me. i try to stay mum about politics on my blog, but i am a VERY political person.

and to be honest with you, i think a lot of new conservatives are trying to (and succeeding at) whipping up a frenzy amongst the disenchanted in america, and yes, the country is turning on those who are different and can be blamed. the racism against arab-amaericans and the bigotry focused at the GLBT community? it's being perpetuated by people who are on the down and out, in order to give themselves something to look forward to. it makes me ashamed of the country as a whole.

 -emily

www.happyhomeblog.com ( http://www.happyhomeblog.com )

msusanvaughn 5 pts

You are right, Catherine - News has desensitized us all. I have to be careful what my children watch on television as well because the violence alone desensitizes them to the reality and the horror of it all. This economic situation is not our neighbor's problem anymore, it is "our" problem. It is in our homes. It has seeped under our doorways like the fog in the Biblical story of Moses. I visualize things. I also visualize the Titanic. They said it was the unsinkable ship. Suddenly, and within hours, thousands are in the freezing ocean waters splashing and dying. Well, the Titanic has sunk - my metaphor for our economy - and we need someone with a lifeboat to at least "try" to save some of us! There are better days ahead. I feel it in my bones. Thank you so much for commenting on my story. - Susan

msusanvaughn 5 pts

Thank you, Karen, for your comment. Times are very tough right now. It's no longer about finding the "right" job - it's about finding "a" job!! Every little bit helps!!

Catherine Morgan 5 pts

Thank you for sharing this important story, I don't think enough people are aware that the "numbers" and "news reports" they hear about on TV actually signify real people and real families. I think for the most part, the 24 hour news cycles have desensitized many Americans, and many have also lost their ability to have true empathy. It's very sad.

Contributing Editor Catherine Morgan
Also at Catherine-Morgan.com ( http://catherine-morgan.com/ )

sassymonkey 6 pts moderator

We've been incredibly lucky. A couple of years ago we were both unemployed (one pink slip, one "I quit") and floated by thanks to employment benefits and savings. I was working part-time from home. It took us about 8 months to both find jobs. My husband went through a six month hiring process for his (yeah, that sucked). About the same time I started a second full-time job.

We've been doing ok but sometimes it feels like everything is built on a house of cards. I'm waiting for it to topple.

I hope that things get better for your family soon.

Contributing Editor Karen Ballum also blogs at Sassymonkey ( http://sassymonkey.ca ) and Sassymonkey Reads ( http://sassymonkeyreads.ca ).