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In my twenties, I fell in love with BMWs.  I loved their history, their styling, and their ability to live up to pure car enthusiast standards in terms of performance and handling.  I scraped together all my money and stretched my budget completely thin to buy my first BMW.  I absolutely loved the car.  I loved how it drove, loved how it looked and I meticulously hand-washed and waxed the car to keep it beautiful.

Fast-forward 10 years, and I found myself ready to buy a new car.  I had my sights set on a BMW convertible.  After driving a friend’s convertible, I realized that you really need to wear a cap while driving top-down on the highway to keep your hair in place and the sun off your face.  So I grew out my bangs so that I could wear a cap and not mess up my hair.  I was all set for my next car adventure.  Even my hair was ready.  Except, then I was pregnant with my first child. 

My husband and I were in the showroom looking at convertibles when it dawned on me that the reduced trunk space of a convertible was going to be a problem.  We already had a brand-new fancy stroller with those 12-inch wheels waiting for the baby.  There was no way that stroller was going to fit in the trunk.  And let’s face it, I can joke around about putting goggles on the baby for driving with the top down, but in reality you would never drive open-roof with a baby in the car.  My husband suggested that we look into the sport wagon (or "touring sedan," as they call it) instead.  I was crestfallen. 

I did eventually buy a used BMW wagon with a sport package, a five-speed manual transmission and all-wheel drive.  Not your average soccer mom car.  But it was still a wagon, and it just didn’t fire my imagination.  However, after hauling two kids with all their stuff through all sorts of nasty New England weather, it was definitely a good choice.

Last summer, I was invited to attend a BlogHer  event, "What Do Women Want in a Vehicle".  Of course I was all jazzed about going and giving my voice, as I am no ordinary woman.  I am a mechanical engineer who LOVES cars.  When they asked what was most important thing you loved about your car that you would never compromise, I was thrilled to say manual transmission.  I could never buy a minivan because of this.  Most women listed the usual niceties (I can't even remember what they were -- automatic sliding doors?).  There were a few items that I heartily agreed with, such as reliability and gas mileage.  But for the most part, I felt alone as a car enthusiast.

My kids are now nine and six, certainly out of the baby stage, and my wagon is now nine years old.  I’ve gotten used to all the mom sacrifices you make for your kids and have gotten my car fix here and there by driving my husband’s sports car.  I put out of my mind owning my own dream convertible.  But last month, my husband happened to see a leftover 2009 BMW 135i convertible at the dealer for a cut-rate price.

I was extremely skeptical about looking at this car.  It was rear-wheel drive, which meant that I would have to keep my current car as a winter car.  I didn’t NEED a new car.  My wagon was still going strong, and it is still a nice performing vehicle.   But I agreed to take a look.  In the showroom, I politely nodded and sat inside.  It was nice, but just not necessary.  Then I opened the top.  Wait a minute.  This is the convertible that I always wanted.  The open air, the 300 HP, the six-speed manual transmission, the look-at-me blue.  It screamed Angela.  A week later, I drove it home.

Call it impractical.  Call it a midlife crisis.  Call it a mom who found her mojo again as a car enthusiast.

Contributing editor Angela blogs about her kids and her cars at mommy bytes.

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moonfever0 5 pts

I can totally relate to the fact that Bimmer drivers have a bad rap for being pretentious snobs.  I get that look all the time.  But you're absolutely right about safety being the number one priority. 

My convertible is much smaller but weighs more than the wagon because of all the added safety features.  The A-pillar is super thick and can withstand the weight of the car if it flips.  There is pop-up rollover protection behind the rear passenger headrests (I believe it uses pyrotechnics for it).  And there are side impact air bags for your head that actually inflate upwards from the car doors because there are no side pillars.  The car is completely solid when it drives, there is no flex in the body at all.

I'm so glad that you survived your car crash to tell about it.

Angela at mommy bytes ( http://www.mommybytes.com ) BlogHer Contributing Editor in Mommy & Family Cribsheet

alyssaroyse 5 pts

so, i am not a car girl, at all. i want something that gets me from point a to point b with the best gas mileage possible, that's about it.

i did have a lifelong hatred of BMW's though. It had nothing to do with the cars themselves, but with everyone I knew who drove them. Seemed to be toe go-to car for tech-geeks who made it, frat boys who made it and generally became self imporant and rude and drove BMW's. i vowed never to date a guy who drove a BMW, it had to be a sign of insecurty and vantiy in the worst way.

Of course, I fell very much in love with a guy who drove a BMW. Amazing guy, my dream guy. And he loved  his car. I always struggled with it - I felt arrogant and conspicuous driving in it (very top of the line!)

Then, one fine evening, we were crossing an intersection and someont t-boned us going close to 40 mph. from the inside of his car, you couldn't tell we were hit. but both cars were totalled.

turns out, that car that i made fun of, is designed to protect it's passenngers at all cost. And it did.

Here's how much it did. I am alive, and I shouldn't be. Because of the spinning and whiplash, my C2 vertebrea is broken. Top of it came clean off and is a few millimeters from my brain stem. In a lesser car, i would have been hurt more, and that snapped verterae woudl have sliced my brain stem.

that car protected me. i'm not psyched to spend the next year in a neck brace - but it's way better than it could have been! all thanks to this car that i made fun of for so long.

so ya, as soon as i can afford one of my own, I'm getting a BMW. Hell, I'll be their spokesperson. :)

moonfever0 5 pts

Even though it has barely reached 50F in New England, I have driven it with the top down a few times.  And each time, I have this huge grin on my face.  It is awesome beyond words.

msusanvaughn 5 pts

Congratulations on your new car!  In 2005, when we sold our home in Maryland and moved to North Carolina, my Big Bear purchased for me my dream car - a BMW convertible, black with beige leather interior.  I love it.  After selling my motorcycle, I couldn't bear not to have the wind in my hair at least some of the time.  Five years later I am still so in love with my beamer.  It drives like a dream and on those beautiful days that I cruise around with my kids and the top down - it feels great.  I know you will have the same experience.  I love the blue of your car.  If they had had one that color on the lot when I bought mine, I would have got that color instead.  You lucky momma!

Susan

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moonfever0 5 pts

My husband works on all our cars, so I am really lucky in that regard.  Having two car nuts makes for little self-control when buying cars though!

Kimmber 5 pts

If you sub in Jeep Wrangler into your post..and not getting a new one yet. Well then you have my story. I will have my manual Jeep again.

Enjoy!

Julie Heinrich 5 pts

Congratulations on your new car! I am a car enthusiast also. And I love convertibles and manual transmissions which perfectly describes the first car I ever owned: a Fiat X1/9 convertible. It drove like a dream (when it was running) but when it needed mechanical work done on it, the cost was an arm and a leg and parts were hard to find.