You Are No Better Than the Average Whore

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People who have never worked in the sex industry - or who have never known anyone who was able to thrive while working in it - have superiority complexes. Maybe I would have one, too, if I hadn’t done it myself. There’s no way for me to know, although I’m hoping I’d be open-minded and not judgmental.

Lately, I feel like I haven’t been able to escape the people looking down their noses at sex workers.

The most recent instance was in the comments on this post from my friend Lindsay. Not in the post – just the comments. Many of them were scathing, totally condescending and not really from the angle that Lindsay was presenting her issue with Mommy XXX. Rather, they were from the average, Puritan “porn is horrible/women in sex work cannot be good mothers/no, no we won’t go!” view.

I’ll admit, it almost hurt my feelings. Unlike most of them probably, I did sex work. I know women in sex work. Past and present tense. Some of them are mothers, and they are damn good mothers. They love their children like I do, like you do.

While I personally could not see myself going back into what I was doing prior to marriage/children now that I have children, if I did, I resent the fact that some people would automatically write me off as a shitty mother, a shame to women everywhere, a perpetrator of a filthy industry or a victim.

I really have a news flash for you, for all of you who think you know but really have no idea:

You are no better than the average whore.

No really, I promise.

You aren’t.

Sure, there are some of you that are better than some of them – but that’s beside the point.

Some humans are just better at being human.

 

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