Your Baby is an A**hole

I recently came across this gem from an essay by Jef Otte responding to the TIME magazine story:

“I love my baby like crazy, every single day. But unless he’s actually injured, I do not give a fuck if he cries. It’s good for him. Every time I ignore his screaming, it’s a reinforcement of a crucial truth in life: that no amount of screaming will get him what he wants. And I pity the kid who never learns that lesson, and I pity the parent who never teaches it. But more than that, I pity the poor souls who have to live, work and coexist in our civilization with the fucking baby that baby is destined to become.”

This statement is so overbroad and ignorant that my first response was simply to say, “Well, I’m sorry for the people who have to live, work and coexist in our civilization with the asshole that you’ve clearly become,” and to leave it at that. But I couldn’t do it. It’s just so obnoxious that I can’t let it go.So let me unpack his statement a little in order to deal with it logically and effectively.

The first thing that needs to be clarified is that there’s a difference between a two month old and a two year old. Attachment parenting is technically about infants. Parents who practice AP with their infants tend to practice some form of “gentle parenting” as their kids get older, but there is no one way to attachment parent, especially not when you’re talking about a toddler.

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