Is Your Husband Happily Married if He Watches Porn?

Is Your Husband Happily Married if He Watches Porn?

Is Your Husband Happily Married if He Watches Porn?

With the easy access of porn on every smartphone, computer, and tv, you could almost argue that it’s hard for a warm-blooded male to avoid porn these days.

And yet, what does it mean that your husband watches porn?

The first question is: How is your sex life?

If your sex life is happy & healthy, it is likely that:

  1. He misses you when you’re not available for sex.
  2. Watching porn enhances your mutual sex life by revving up his sexual engine (so to speak) and giving him new ideas for sex.
  3. He has a higher sex drive than you do.

If your sex life is humdrum:

  1. He may wish that you would do certain ‘creative’ sexual acts that are outside of your comfort zone.
  2. He may be fantasizing about a time when your sex life used to be more passionate (ex: before having kids).

If you’ve drifted into ‘the low frequency zone’ which I define as having sex fewer than 2x per month:

  1. He may be longing to have sex more frequently.
  2. He may be substituting porn for physical intimacy.
  3. He may think that you are not attracted to him anymore.
  4. He may be using porn as an outlet to prevent himself from cheating.

While you might initially feel hurt by your husband’ behavior, it is important to keep an open mind and ask him why he watches porn.  You might be surprised by the answer. 

 

 

Lauren Napolitano, Psy.D.

Licensed Psychologist

lauren@laurennapolitanopsyd.com

www.laurennapolitanopsyd.com

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