The Family Moment That Helped Tracy Tutor Get Out of Her Own Way
Long before she became the first and only female star of Million Dollar Listing: L.A., Tracy Tutor established herself as an in-demand real estate agent with confidence and expertise that couldn’t be ignored. In short, the kind of woman whose mere presence would make any reality show must-see TV. During an intimate convo with fellow entrepreneur Sadie Kurzban (founder of 305 Fitness) for BlogHer Biz, Tutor’s magnetic presence was all but confirmed. Camera-ready and candid as always, she casually dropped game-changing gems for getting into the mindset of a successful creator.
Unsurprisingly, the California native also detailed the highs and lows of her own career, including a standout moment from her early days that felt like a failure but actually propelled her forward.
Here’s how it went. About five or six years into her work, Tutor recalled counting on friends, family, and her network to secure transactions. Being “newer to the game,” her mindset was “I want you to give me your business and trust that I can take care of you.” Unfortunately, this turned out to be a rookie mistake. “I had this expectation that that was gonna be there for me and it wasn’t.”
“My sister bought a house behind my back and I really couldn’t wrap my head around it,” she said. “At the time, I was like, if my own family doesn’t trust me with guiding them through real estate transactions…then who will?”
Understandably so, when mixing family with work hits a snag, it can be challenging to work through. For Tutor, it was a “really, really tough struggle.” She couldn’t get out of her own way and it took time to process because she kept feeling sorry for herself. (I think we’ve all been stuck in negative self-talk at one point or another.)
It wasn’t until she “finally started unpacking it” that she was able to step outside of the situation and empathize with her sister’s decision. “[I] had just had a baby. I definitely had some postpartum challenges. I had a toddler. I was a mess,” she shared. “In the grand scheme of things, could I have really performed at the level that she needed me to? Probably not.” What felt like a betrayal was a lesson in disguise.
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“I let myself off the hook and then I kind of had to realize that nothing was going to be handed to me. I was going to have to earn every single moment and it just made me work that much harder. If you don’t acknowledge your fail, how the hell do you know what success is?”
By the way, now Tutor is listing her sister’s home. Don’t you just love a full circle moment?
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